I recently had lunch individually with each of the men in this picture. I shared with them that I have been struggling with not honoring God with the words that come out of my mouth. I shared with them that God is challenging me to honor Him with everything I say and talk about. Each one of these men let me know that I was not struggling alone and that they were there for me, praying for me and encouraging me to honor Jesus Christ with my mouth and heart. We are running this race together.

One of these men is Johnny Mathers, my accountability partner. One of the single most powerful ways God has touched me, healed me and grown me is through accountability. Johnny and I have been meeting on Monday nights since about high school. He has helped me be a better father, husband and man of God. He knows me inside and out and doesn’t let me get away with anything. God does not intend for us to run this race alone.



I frequently speak at the different marriage conferences I do about the fact that when I married my wife Carol, 25 years ago, I had an anger issue. Carol will tell you that today, 25 years later, she is married to a different man. I told Johnny back then that I was going to tell him when I lost my temper with Carol, and he was going to pray with me. We both followed through on this. I confessed my sin to him and he prayed for me. Through time and persistence, God healed me. Therefore confess your sins to each other and pray for each other so that you may be healed. The prayer of a righteous person is powerful and effective. James 5:16.

These days, Johnny and I are committed to each other that we will honor God with our eyes. I have the same commitment with my adult sons. If I choose to look at anything that is inappropriate, I confess it to them and Johnny and they pray with me and vice versa. We were not meant to run this race alone. Do you have an accountability partner that you trust and is a godly person who will pray with you and for you? If you don’t, ask God to reveal to you who this person is in your life.

p.s. This part may not be for everyone but Johnny, my sons and I have often had a penalty connected to a commitment. This way it costs us something when we break the commitment. This has really helped us.