This one is for the married guys (I’ll get to the married ladies next week): What does it mean when the Bible says the husband is the head of the marriage relationship?
For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior.
Ephesians 5:23. (NIV)
Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her.
Ephesians 5:25. (NIV)
When the Bible says the husband is the head that means a few different things. However, there is only one of those few things I want to focus on today:
Being the head means the husband is the Head Servant and is to serve his wife, as Christ is the Head Servant of the Church and gave Himself up for her.
As head the husband leads as he humbles himself and serves his wife.
Headship never means dictatorship but servant hood.
Christ is clearly our example of this. Jesus, the King of Kings came to be a servant.
Husbands serve your wives.
This is really tough for me because of my great selfishness and self-centeredness, but it is something that is always before me. It is what God is asking of me. It is my calling. I have a reminder that goes off everyday in my phone that says JUMP UP and reminds me to jump into action and lead my wife Carol by serving her. I need that. Some men are natural servants; I am not one of them.
Some men are doing a great job of this. However, some men who are natural servants do not serve their wives in a spirit of joy, but rather in a spirit of contempt towards their spouse.
Let’s ask God to give us the strength to serve and to do it from a place of joy that comes from gratitude towards God for all He has done for us.
Let’s step up to our calling men and let’s do it today.